LC Meridian

Issue date: 11/5/07 Section: Arts & Entertainment

Media Credit: www.uncoy.com

Are you disgusted by the couple who's always lip-locking in the hall? What if you are that couple? If you've displayed affection in public, chances are you've experienced an occasional sickened look from a passerby.

"I feel like people who kiss for long periods in public are either immature or insecure about their relationship," said Lehman junior Cimantha Clarke.

While Public Displays of Affection (PDAs) can be sweet, some students feel they are fragile. Prolonged flaunts of kissing, baby talk, hugging, and handholding can backfire on your relationship. In some cases the more public affection is displayed, the less valuable it becomes.

"It's going to lose its worth if it's done too often," said Lehman senior Emanuel Torres. "Public affection should be saved until you really mean it."

Many Lehman students believe that PDAs show their level of concern and commitment in relationships and satisfy that burst of infatuation. For college students especially, PDAs are a fairly quick and effective way of showing emotion. A kiss in the hallway might be necessary for couples that don't spend a lot of time together.

"I have to give my boyfriend a big long kiss every time I see him," said Lehman sophomore Yasmin Johnson. "I'm not sure when I'm going to see him again."

But when do PDAs cross the line? One indication comes from the looks you receive from others while showing your partner affection. What are their reactions? Remember that your love should be shared between you and your partner. It should not be showcased to the world. If you want to publicly proclaim your love, start a blog. Post countless pictures on Facebook (www.facebook.com) or buy an ad in a newspaper.

You shouldn't have to hold back when you and your partner are together, but try not to be too clingy. If you don't refrain from constant contact, your partner might feel smothered. If you and your partner live together, then be as passionate as you want to be at home. If you don't live together, treasure the time spent together. Try to schedule a day of affection. This is intended so that you both can show each other affection in private.

In public, the world is your audience, and though you may feel indifferent to their stares, you should practice some control. While adoration is often impulsive, it doesn't always have to be acted on. If you feel like you must show affection in public, do so in moderation and have consideration for those around you.

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